Rules of Speech in Islam..(5 Etiquittes)..

Besides other major matters related to living, one of the important aspects upon which Islam sheds light is the matter of speech. The speech of a person represents the kind of intellect and character he or she has, therefore, the more refined and polite the speech is the better is thought of that person. The lines below discuss the major etiquettes of speech in the light of Islamic teachings.

Etiquette#1:

In Quran, Allah Almighty says:

“And when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with ‘Salamaa’ (peaceful words of gentleness).” (25:63)

From this ayah of Quran, one of the major characteristics of the speech of Muslims is clear. It is that they don’t respond bad words with bad words, rather they make peace with such people and avoid indulging with them in vain conversations that lead to nothing but foolishness and lack knowledge of any kind. Therefore, a Muslim must refrain from indulging in conversation with foolish people, respond to their bad words with gentleness, and go their own path.

At another place the same idea is asserted by Allah Almighty in Quran in the following way:

Avoid conversation with foolish people

“If they pass by some vain speech or play, they pass by it with dignity.”(25:72)

Therefore, instead of becoming vain and foolish with vain and foolish people, a Muslim must refrain from them and make excuse with gentle speech.

Etiquette# 2:

In Quran, Allah Almighty says:

“And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys…. But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book.” (31:19-20)

be gentle to other and talk with softer tone

This ayah points out two thing related to firstly with speech and secondly with discourse. At first Allah Almighty instructs Muslims to be moderate in their pace of talking and keep their voices low. These two are perhaps the most important elements that at present are considered the best form of speech. If a person does not do so, then the his or her voice is as annoying as of a donkey, which no one likes.

The second thing that this ayah highlights is the elements that need to be taken care of before indulging in a religious discourse. One is as annoying as that of a donkey, if one indulges in religious discourse, primarily related to Allah Almighty without having any knowledge or guidance. Therefore, in addition to being gentle in speech, a Muslim also needs to refrain from religious discussions without any prior knowledge.

Etiquette# 3:

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said in His hadith:

“He who gave up disputing while he is right, a palace of high rank in Paradise will be built for him. He who gave up disputing while he is a fabricator, a palace in the center of Paradise will be built for him.”(Tirmidhi)

Indulging in disputes is one of the major speech problems observed in discourses of people. Regarding different matters people indulge in dispute and in that dispute all they try is to prove them right and the other person wrong. In doing so they neither take into consideration gentleness, nor do they take care of any civility, rather everything is lost and only their proving of themselves as right matters for them. This is why Prophet (PBUH) has put such a great reward for those who give up in a dispute and remain civil. This abhorrence of dispute is mentioned in another hadith as well, where Prophet (PBUH) said:

“There are no people who went astray after having been guided except for indulging in disputation.” (Tirmidhi)

Etiquette# 4:

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“The one initiating abuse incurs the sin of abusing as long as the other did not return it.” (Muslim)

Abusing others has become a part of conversation of people of today. Even the most civil ones abuse or curse as a fashion and consider it something good in their speech. Islam condones such an act and the hadith shows that the person who abuses the other carries all the sin until the other one also reciprocates in the same way, which is when they share the sin.

At another place, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“The believer does not defame, abuse, disparage, nor vilify.” (Tirmidhi)

All the elements mentioned in this hadith are associated with speech, therefore, a speech of a good muslim must be free of all sorts of defaming, abusing or disparaging of others. Hence, condescending on others must be avoided in speech.

Etiquette# 5:

The fifth factor that a Muslim must refrain from in speech is anger. When anger is present in a speech, the ultimate result is a person loosing grip of senses as well as clouding the judgment, which ultimately leads to an uncivil speech and false judgment. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“He who is victorious over his passion at the time of anger is the strongest among you. He who forgives having the power to release (his anger and take revenge) is the most patient among you.” (Bai-Haqqi)

Therefore, it is imperative that a Muslim when in conversation with others should control his or her anger and try not acting or responding out of anger as it leads to nothing but shame and misery. Hence, anger should be controlled and eliminated from speech

In a nutshell, Islam teaches its followers to work on their character as it is the character of a Muslim that inspires the non-Muslims. If the character is good and the speech is civil and polite to the highest level, then the people who are not Muslims would definitely be inspired and this inspiration of their might lead them to inquiring more about Islam and finding the ultimate truth. Therefore, Muslims must practice incorporating the etiquettes of speech given by Islam in their day to day conversations.

Best wishes !!

26 thoughts on “Rules of Speech in Islam..(5 Etiquittes)..

    1. This rule is not in Islam..
      But we are asked for forgiving those who hurt us.. But not to encourage them to keep hurting us..
      Thanks a lot dear jrmessi!!

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  1. SMiLes i suppose Etiquette may Be Reduced too
    to A Four Letter Word Starting With K yes K in D
    Kindness Goes along way
    To Connect Humans
    With Light
    But True Humans
    Who Feel Empty Inside
    Devoid of the Comforting Loving
    Feelings that not only Survive Our
    Human Being But Thrive Us Alive
    More are more often Cold and
    Unwilling to See Each Other
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    Yes.. Family Beyond
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    Who Bleed and Breathe
    The Same With the Force of
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    in Light For It Seems True to Truly Save the Species
    As Whole in both Surviving and Thriving A life Will be
    to Help Folks Fill their Own Chalice of Love Their Temple
    of God From Head to Toe Overflowing To Give and Share that
    Love With Others So Free to Be and Do More Now True in Truth And
    Light of Love the Wisdom And Beauty of Love Never Ending Now as Light
    to Give
    And
    Share More…
    Hi Sohair Happy
    Saturday to You.. was
    gonna make the 12:30 PM
    Showing of a Movie but i rather
    Come Here First as People Come First
    Particularly mY Great Friend Sohair A
    Teacher of Young Women in Egypt a Muslim
    Woman who is Kind to everyone She Meets
    God Is Still
    Love There
    is no
    Greater
    Example
    of Love
    Than Kindness
    to all Now of Who
    We Meet and Greet in Life
    With Hello and only See You
    Laters.. Never Ever Good Bye..
    There is No Good Bye In See You Laters….
    At Least Where Love Lives For Real mY Friend Now..:)

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    1. Well said my dear friend Fred.. Kindness can summerize it.. Integrity also is a suitable one I think..
      May Allah grant you happiness my dear friend here and in the hereafter.. Smiles🍀💐

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      1. Yes my Friend Sohair
        Honesty And Trust
        Hold Hands As
        Integrity
        A Soul
        Will
        Fracture
        Eventually Break
        Without Integrity
        So Will Relationships
        As Small as one and
        The Entire Human
        Species for
        At the
        End or
        Beginning
        Of any Age of
        Kindness Integrity
        Comes First From Both
        A First and Third World
        to: Do List These Days
        From:
        Integrity
        That Breeds Love..
        Integrity must
        Be Protected
        Or We
        All
        Fall
        To a Place
        Away From Love
        A Very Cold Place
        Indeed my Friend
        There Will be no
        Luke Warm In
        Integrity
        For
        Kindness
        to Thrive..:)

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