Rules of Speech in Islam..(5 Etiquittes)..

Besides other major matters related to living, one of the important aspects upon which Islam sheds light is the matter of speech. The speech of a person represents the kind of intellect and character he or she has, therefore, the more refined and polite the speech is the better is thought of that person. The lines below discuss the major etiquettes of speech in the light of Islamic teachings.

Etiquette#1:

In Quran, Allah Almighty says:

“And when the foolish address them (with bad words) they reply back with ‘Salamaa’ (peaceful words of gentleness).” (25:63)

From this ayah of Quran, one of the major characteristics of the speech of Muslims is clear. It is that they don’t respond bad words with bad words, rather they make peace with such people and avoid indulging with them in vain conversations that lead to nothing but foolishness and lack knowledge of any kind. Therefore, a Muslim must refrain from indulging in conversation with foolish people, respond to their bad words with gentleness, and go their own path.

At another place the same idea is asserted by Allah Almighty in Quran in the following way:

Avoid conversation with foolish people

“If they pass by some vain speech or play, they pass by it with dignity.”(25:72)

Therefore, instead of becoming vain and foolish with vain and foolish people, a Muslim must refrain from them and make excuse with gentle speech.

Etiquette# 2:

In Quran, Allah Almighty says:

“And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys…. But of the people is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or an enlightening Book.” (31:19-20)

be gentle to other and talk with softer tone

This ayah points out two thing related to firstly with speech and secondly with discourse. At first Allah Almighty instructs Muslims to be moderate in their pace of talking and keep their voices low. These two are perhaps the most important elements that at present are considered the best form of speech. If a person does not do so, then the his or her voice is as annoying as of a donkey, which no one likes.

The second thing that this ayah highlights is the elements that need to be taken care of before indulging in a religious discourse. One is as annoying as that of a donkey, if one indulges in religious discourse, primarily related to Allah Almighty without having any knowledge or guidance. Therefore, in addition to being gentle in speech, a Muslim also needs to refrain from religious discussions without any prior knowledge.

Etiquette# 3:

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said in His hadith:

“He who gave up disputing while he is right, a palace of high rank in Paradise will be built for him. He who gave up disputing while he is a fabricator, a palace in the center of Paradise will be built for him.”(Tirmidhi)

Indulging in disputes is one of the major speech problems observed in discourses of people. Regarding different matters people indulge in dispute and in that dispute all they try is to prove them right and the other person wrong. In doing so they neither take into consideration gentleness, nor do they take care of any civility, rather everything is lost and only their proving of themselves as right matters for them. This is why Prophet (PBUH) has put such a great reward for those who give up in a dispute and remain civil. This abhorrence of dispute is mentioned in another hadith as well, where Prophet (PBUH) said:

“There are no people who went astray after having been guided except for indulging in disputation.” (Tirmidhi)

Etiquette# 4:

Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“The one initiating abuse incurs the sin of abusing as long as the other did not return it.” (Muslim)

Abusing others has become a part of conversation of people of today. Even the most civil ones abuse or curse as a fashion and consider it something good in their speech. Islam condones such an act and the hadith shows that the person who abuses the other carries all the sin until the other one also reciprocates in the same way, which is when they share the sin.

At another place, Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“The believer does not defame, abuse, disparage, nor vilify.” (Tirmidhi)

All the elements mentioned in this hadith are associated with speech, therefore, a speech of a good muslim must be free of all sorts of defaming, abusing or disparaging of others. Hence, condescending on others must be avoided in speech.

Etiquette# 5:

The fifth factor that a Muslim must refrain from in speech is anger. When anger is present in a speech, the ultimate result is a person loosing grip of senses as well as clouding the judgment, which ultimately leads to an uncivil speech and false judgment. Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said:

“He who is victorious over his passion at the time of anger is the strongest among you. He who forgives having the power to release (his anger and take revenge) is the most patient among you.” (Bai-Haqqi)

Therefore, it is imperative that a Muslim when in conversation with others should control his or her anger and try not acting or responding out of anger as it leads to nothing but shame and misery. Hence, anger should be controlled and eliminated from speech

In a nutshell, Islam teaches its followers to work on their character as it is the character of a Muslim that inspires the non-Muslims. If the character is good and the speech is civil and polite to the highest level, then the people who are not Muslims would definitely be inspired and this inspiration of their might lead them to inquiring more about Islam and finding the ultimate truth. Therefore, Muslims must practice incorporating the etiquettes of speech given by Islam in their day to day conversations.

Best wishes !!

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Rules of hospitality in Islam…

In this article we are going to look at the Islamic way to treat guests. Prophet Muhammad reminded us of the high status of one who treats his guest well when he said, “…Let the believer in God and the Day of Judgment honor his guest.”[1] Honoring, or treating a guest well is coupled with two of the most important beliefs in Islam, belief in God and belief in the Day of Judgment. In Islam, the hospitality relationship is triangular; it consists of host, guest, and God. Hospitality is a right rather than a gift, and the duty to supply it is a duty to God.

When a guest arrives at your home, whether he or she is expected or not, if you remember a few simple things it is easy to provide your guest with a pleasurable experience and to reap the rewards attained by pleasing God. Greet the guests warmly, welcome them to your home and show them into a comfortable and appropriate room. Hasten to provide them with food and drink so that they do not have to ask for these things. Prophet Muhammad showed respect to his guests by offering them the choicest food and delivering it in a timely manner.
The guest also has responsibilities. One of them is to announce his or her visit in advance whenever possible. Another is to hasten to taste the refreshments and to pray for and ask blessings upon the host. After seeing to the initial needs of his guest the Muslim should take interest in his or her conversation. However, if the guest should speak about or engage in unlawful activity, the Muslim has every right to ask him to refrain from doing so.
It is the host’s duty to make the guest feel comfortable. One way of doing this is by identifying his or her possible needs in advance. It is better to offer a guest something before he or she has the chance to ask for it because a courteous guest may hesitate to mention any need. Out of his or her thoughtfulness, such a guest would even try to prevent the host from offering anything. The Quran offers the example of Prophet Abraham anticipating the guest’s needs and hastening to fulfill them.
Has the story reached you of the honored guests of Abraham? Behold, they entered his presence and said: “Peace!” He said: “Peace!” (and thought: “They seem) unusual people.” Then he turned quickly to his household, brought out a roasted fattened calf, and placed it before them. He said: “Will you not eat?” (Quran 51: 24-27)
In another tradition Prophet Muhammad said, “Whoever believes in God and the Last Day, let him honor his neighbor; whoever believes in God and the Last Day, let him honor his guest as he is entitled.” It was said, “What is his entitlement, O Messenger of God?” He said, “[The best treatment] for one day and one night; and hospitality is for three days, and anything after that is charity bestowed upon him. And whoever believes in God and the Last Day, let him, speak good words or else remain silent.”[2]
Prophet Muhammad also said, “…And it is not lawful for a guest to stay with his host for such a long period as to put him in a critical position.”[3]Again the responsibility of the guest is to bear in mind the conditions of his host and not burden him with what he cannot afford. Everybody has various duties and obligations that must be attended to, many of which may not be obvious or visible to the guest. By prolonging one’s stay one might inadvertently put his or her host under unbearable pressure.
One of the great Islamic scholars of Islam, Abu Hamid Muhammad ibn Muhammad al-Ghazali (1058–1111 CE) wrote a beautiful paragraph in one of his books about the generosity of Prophet Muhammad to his guests. “(He) used to honor his guests; he even spread his garment for a non-relative guest to sit on it. He used to offer his guest his own cushion and insist on him to accept it until the latter accepts [sic] it from him. No one came to him as a guest but thought that he was the most generous of people. He gave each one of his companions sitting with him his due portion of his attention, so he directed his listening, talking, looks and attention to all his companions. His meeting [sic] were characterized by modesty, humbleness and honesty. He used to call his companions by their favorite nickname to honor them…”[4]
The companions were eager to emulate the ways of Prophet Muhammad. A verse in the Quran was revealed highlighting the hospitality shown to a guest by the companions Abu Talha and his wife Umm Sulaim. Abu Talha welcomed a hungry traveler into his home even though they had very little to eat. Thus he asked his wife to bring whatever provisions they had and give it to the guest. As the guest ate his fill, they pretended to eat in the dim candlelight. The following day Prophet Muhammad gave them the great news that God had revealed a verse about them and their generosity.
“…but give them preference over themselves, even though they were in need of that. And whosoever is saved from his covetousness such are they who will be successful.” (Quran 59: 9)
A guest enjoys a special place in Islam. Honoring the guest is tied to the faith of a true believer. Our righteous predecessors understood that and toiled hard to implement it, even the poorest of them, sometimes causing their own personal deprivation. Across the world you will find Muslims doing their best to offer hospitality to the guest in their home or their community. Entertaining a guest is important – it signifies the respect and concern of a host towards his guest and towards God. Hospitality in Islam is a triangle that links God, the guest and the host.

Best wishes !!!

The purpose of Life

I advise you to visit this site..it can help you learn more about Islam..a great site indeed !

Friday Sermons

إِنَّ
الْحَمْدَلِلَّهِ ،نَحْمَدُهُوَنَسْتَعِينُهُوَنُؤْمِنُ
بِهِ ، وَنَتَوَكَّلُ عَلَيْهِ ، وَنَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنْ شُرُورِ أَنْفُسِنَا
وَمِنْ سَيِّئَاتِ أَعْمَالِنَا ، مَنْ يَهْدِهِ اللَّهُ فَلا مُضِلَّ لَهُ ،
وَمَنْ يُضْلِلْ فَلا هَادِيَ لَهُ ، وَأَشْهَدُ أَلا إِلَهَ إِلا اللَّهَ ،
وَأَنَّ مُحَمَّدًا عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُولُهُ

Introduction

Today
I’ll ask a simple question, a question that everyone on earth has to
askhimself..

because
we witness we see people being born, we see people alive and we see
peopledie,,where were they before they were born? where were we?
Where are those whohavepassed away?

And
before all,Whyare we here? What’s the purpose of
our existence?

Allahربالعزةsays:

أَفَحَسِبْتُمْ أَنَّمَا خَلَقْنَاكُمْ عَبَثًا وَأَنَّكُمْ إِلَيْنَا لَا
تُرْجَعُونَ

“Did
you think that We had created you in play (without any purpose), and that you
would not be brought back to Us?”

The
moment we arrivedtothis world what did we bring with us? Nothing,
wearing nothing and havingnothing,, when we die what do…

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Rules of charity in Islam..

What is charity??

Charity is to help the poor and the needy..

But how can I help them without causing a hurt inside their souls??

If you want to give them clothes that you wore for some time..you have to wash those clothes carefully and put some perfume in them ..and then put the clothes in elegant bags..

Give them the clothes as a gift not as a help.

Also when you give them money try to put some perfume in the money ..and when you meet those needy do not remind them that you gave them money or clothes or whatever…

Give your charity and then forget about it..

Do not give charity in order that people say that you are a generous person..

No ……give it just for the sake of God(Allah)..

Allah says…

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُبْطِلُوا صَدَقَاتِكُمْ بِالْمَنِّ وَالْأَذَىٰ كَالَّذِي يُنْفِقُ مَالَهُ رِئَاءَ النَّاسِ وَلَا يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ ۖ فَمَثَلُهُ كَمَثَلِ صَفْوَانٍ عَلَيْهِ تُرَابٌ فَأَصَابَهُ وَابِلٌ فَتَرَكَهُ صَلْدًا ۖ لَا يَقْدِرُونَ عَلَىٰ شَيْءٍ مِمَّا كَسَبُوا ۗ وَاللَّهُ لَا يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الْكَافِرِينَ
O ye who believe! cancel not your charity by reminders of your generosity or by injury,- like those who spend their substance to be seen of men, but believe neither in Allah nor in the Last Day. They are in parable like a hard, barren rock, on which is a little soil: on it falls heavy rain, which leaves it (Just) a bare stone. They will be able to do nothing with aught they have earned. And Allah guideth not those who reject faith.

وَمَثَلُ الَّذِينَ يُنْفِقُونَ أَمْوَالَهُمُ ابْتِغَاءَ مَرْضَاتِ اللَّهِ وَتَثْبِيتًا مِنْ أَنْفُسِهِمْ كَمَثَلِ جَنَّةٍ بِرَبْوَةٍ أَصَابَهَا وَابِلٌ فَآتَتْ أُكُلَهَا ضِعْفَيْنِ فَإِنْ لَمْ يُصِبْهَا وَابِلٌ فَطَلٌّ ۗ وَاللَّهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ بَصِيرٌ
And the likeness of those who spend their substance, seeking to please Allah and to strengthen their souls, is as a garden, high and fertile: heavy rain falls on it but makes it yield a double increase of harvest, and if it receives not Heavy rain, light moisture sufficeth it. Allah seeth well whatever ye do.

Rules inside a moslem house..

Inside a moslem home there are limits…nothing is haphazard..

Let’s read Quran Islamic rules inside the house ..

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لِيَسْتَأْذِنكُمُ الَّذِينَ مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ وَالَّذِينَ لَمْ يَبْلُغُوا الْحُلُمَ مِنكُمْ ثَلَاثَ مَرَّاتٍ مِن قَبْلِ صَلَاةِ الْفَجْرِ وَحِينَ تَضَعُونَ ثِيَابَكُم مِّنَ الظَّهِيرَةِ وَمِن بَعْدِ صَلَاةِ الْعِشَاء ثَلَاثُ عَوْرَاتٍ لَّكُمْ لَيْسَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَلَا عَلَيْهِمْ جُنَاحٌ بَعْدَهُنَّ طَوَّافُونَ عَلَيْكُم بَعْضُكُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ كَذَلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمُ الْآيَاتِ وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ

O ye who believe! Let your slaves, and those of you who have not come to puberty, ask leave of you at three times (before they come into your presence): Before the prayer of dawn, and when ye lay aside your raiment for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. Three times of privacy for you. It is no sin for them or for you at other times, when some of you go round attendant upon others (if they come into your presence without leave). Thus Allah maketh clear the revelations for you. Allah is Knower, Wise.
24:58

وَإِذَا بَلَغَ الْأَطْفَالُ مِنكُمُ الْحُلُمَ فَلْيَسْتَأْذِنُوا كَمَا اسْتَأْذَنَ الَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِهِمْ كَذَلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ آيَاتِهِ وَاللَّهُ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ

And when the children among you come to puberty then let them ask leave even as those before them used to ask it. Thus Allah maketh clear His revelations for you. Allah is knower, Wise.
24:59

وَالْقَوَاعِدُ مِنَ النِّسَاء اللَّاتِي لَا يَرْجُونَ نِكَاحًا فَلَيْسَ عَلَيْهِنَّ جُنَاحٌ أَن يَضَعْنَ ثِيَابَهُنَّ غَيْرَ مُتَبَرِّجَاتٍ بِزِينَةٍ وَأَن يَسْتَعْفِفْنَ خَيْرٌ لَّهُنَّ وَاللَّهُ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ

As for women past child bearing, who have no hope of marriage, it is no sin for them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show adornment. But to refrain is better for them. Allah is Hearer, Knower.
24:60

لَيْسَ عَلَى الْأَعْمَى حَرَجٌ وَلَا عَلَى الْأَعْرَجِ حَرَجٌ وَلَا عَلَى الْمَرِيضِ حَرَجٌ وَلَا عَلَى أَنفُسِكُمْ أَن تَأْكُلُوا مِن بُيُوتِكُمْ أَوْ بُيُوتِ آبَائِكُمْ أَوْ بُيُوتِ أُمَّهَاتِكُمْ أَوْ بُيُوتِ إِخْوَانِكُمْ أَوْ بُيُوتِ أَخَوَاتِكُمْ أَوْ بُيُوتِ أَعْمَامِكُمْ أَوْ بُيُوتِ عَمَّاتِكُمْ أَوْ بُيُوتِ أَخْوَالِكُمْ أَوْ بُيُوتِ خَالَاتِكُمْ أَوْ مَا مَلَكْتُم مَّفَاتِحَهُ أَوْ صَدِيقِكُمْ لَيْسَ عَلَيْكُمْ جُنَاحٌ أَن تَأْكُلُوا جَمِيعًا أَوْ أَشْتَاتًا فَإِذَا دَخَلْتُم بُيُوتًا فَسَلِّمُوا عَلَى أَنفُسِكُمْ تَحِيَّةً مِّنْ عِندِ اللَّهِ مُبَارَكَةً طَيِّبَةً كَذَلِكَ يُبَيِّنُ اللَّهُ لَكُمُ الْآيَاتِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَعْقِلُون

No blame is there upon the blind nor any blame upon the lame nor any blame upon the sick nor on yourselves if ye eat from your houses, or the houses of your fathers, or the houses of your mothers, or the houses of your brothers, or the houses of your sisters, or the houses of your fathers’ brothers, or the houses of your fathers’ sisters, or the houses of your mothers’ brothers, or the houses of your mothers’ sisters, or (from that) whereof ye hold the keys, or (from the house) of a friend. No sin shall it be for you whether ye eat together or apart. But when ye enter houses, salute one another with a greeting from Allah, blessed and sweet. Thus Allah maketh clear His revelations for you, that haply ye may understand.
24:61

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Rules…rules..rules..rules…

As I told you before..

I am here to teach you about Islam..

Islam is not just a religion..it is a life system..

I will make a group of posts (God willing) about rules in Islam..

Rules inside the home and outside it..

Rules of separation between partners …etc..

So join me and read as much as you can..

Thanks a lot for your support dear friends 🙂